delacroix:

imnotyogi:

toptumbles:

Even worse than a friendzone

I’m getting sick of the term friendzone.

Me too. And, more than that, I’m sick of the people using it.

Women are told almost constantly—by the media, the government, and the overall attitude of society—that our bodies don’t fucking belong to us. The mythical friendzone is just another way for misogynists to enforce that idea while getting to play the victim.

It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.

But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.

And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy.

THANK YOU. I’m getting tired of never being able to keep my male friends, whose friendship I greatly enjoyed, because I don’t want to be their girlfriend so then they lose all interest in talking to me. And then when I DID get a boyfriend, it was even worse. Apparently I’m some sort of evil bitch for “friendzoning” all of them and my sincere expressions of friendship aren’t good enough. I’m supposed to just fuck everybody apparently. GAH the “friendzone” people annoy me. Yes, friendship. Friendship is good. People like having friends. But apparently you can be only be friends with people of the same sex otherwise you’re a “friendzoning tease” or some shit. GRR.

And you know what? I LIKE being friends with guys! Why? Because I’m not very girly and I while I love my girl friends, I don’t always want to do “girly” stuff and I need to go do the “guy” things I like but this is getting harder and harder. Sigh. Ok my part of this rant is over. It needed to get out.

(Source: lolsnaps.com, via ablogoficeandfire)